Why Do Men Cheat on Their Loved Ones and What They Actually Think

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There’s no two ways about it, cheating hurts. But we have to ask ourselves, why do we, as a species that reveres monogamy so much, cheat?

We can sit here and argue who cheats more, men or women, but sorry for you guys, men are the more common cheaters out there.

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What the numbers say

What comes to mind when we hear that someone cheated in a relationship? Most of us would probably have assumed right off the bat that the cheater slept with someone other than their partner; however, cheating is much more complex than that. It could be that the cheater withdrew some emotional or mental aspect of the relationship and instead focused it on another.

After clarifying what actions count as cheating, men do cheat more than women, but not by much. According to some reputable sources like Rutgers University, National Opinion Research Center and other sources, this holds true, but again, not by much.

Although for guys this might be bad news, it gets worse. What the data says is that:

Most men would cheat if they think that they won’t be found out.

Logically, this might not be that much of a surprise, after all, what thief wants to admit their own crime? Studies show that only 21% of the male cheaters interviewed admitted to their respective partners.

WHY DO MEN CHEAT ON THEIR LOVED ONES AND WHAT THEY ACTUALLY THINK
Reynico | July 13, 2017 | Relationship | No Comments
WHY DO MEN CHEAT ON THEIR LOVED ONES AND WHAT THEY ACTUALLY THINK

A relationship brings many things like happiness, joy and love.

Unfortunately it can also bring many misunderstandings and hurt feelings. This often happens when a partner becomes unfaithful.

We can sit here and argue who cheats more, men or women, but sorry for you guys, men are the most common cheaters out there.

Why Do Men Cheat

What the numbers say

What comes to mind when we hear that someone cheated in a relationship? Most of us would probably have assumed right off the bat that the cheater slept with someone other than their partner; however, cheating is much more complex than that. It could be that the cheater withdrew some emotional or mental aspect of the relationship and instead focused it on another.

After clarifying what actions count as cheating, men do cheat more than women, but not by much. According to some reputable sources like Rutgers University, National Opinion Research Center and other sources, this holds true, but again, not by much.

Although for guys this might be bad news, it gets worse. What the data says is that:

Most men would cheat if they think that they won’t be found out

Although the number that represents this (76%!) is pretty dang high, take note that it also includes non-physical acts of cheating like looking at other women, etc.

Cheating happens even in healthy relationships

Of all the male cheaters in the data, 56% said that their current relationships were healthy, and that it was not a reason as to why they cheated.

Only a few men in committed relationships will ever admit to cheating

Logically, this might not be that much of a surprise, after all, what thief wants to admit their own crime? Studies show that only 21% of the male cheaters interviewed admitted to their respective partners.

If cheating is such a horrendous act, then why do we do it? Is it just an inherent part of who we are? If so, one might think, is monogamy really what humans were destined to do?

Sadly, in a strictly biological point of view, monogamy is a very strange thing. The facts are:

Jane Lancaster, an expert on evolutionary anthropology theorizes that monogamy between parents may have been founded just for the sake of their children.

From an evolutionary point of view, men cheat because they are programmed to “spread their seed” because they want their genes to propagate well around the world. In fact in the history of humankind, it has been noted that only the strongest males get to pass on their genes by having access to the most supple mates.

Of all the mammal species out there, only about 3-5% engage in monogamy, the rest are out there humping whoever they find.

Now that we’ve dealt with all the scientific mumbo jumbo about cheating, it still doesn’t change the fact that being cheated on does hurt alot.

So how do you find out if your man isn’t being faithful?

There are a few signs that are very indicative that your man might not be yours alone anymore. If your instincts are telling you that something’s off, it could be on the money, but don’t jump to conclusions just yet. Look for other signs like:

1. He’s married to his phone.

If he suddenly pays alot more attention to his phone, or any type of multimedia device for that matter, that could be enough to raise suspicions that he might be into someone else.

He doesn’t show you his phone.

Obviously a clear sign he’s hiding something from you, but even if he does give you his phone, check his reaction everytime you do something with it. If you look through his phone’s gallery or his net history and he gets a bit antsy or defensive, you know something’s not right.

He erases his internet history.

Although not really a good sign that he’s cheating, since he might be hiding something else like some weird fad he’s into, it could still be a sign that you should keep a close eye on him from now on.

Caught in the act of lying.

If your catch your man lying about where he was, who he was with or what he was doing, that’s a red flag. Unless your man is doing a big romantic gesture, he has no right to be lying to your face.

Changes his interests.

If one minute he’s so into you that you have to pry him off, the next he’s practically in another dimension, it could be a sign that he’s found someone else.

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He thinks you’re the bad guy.

If out of the blue he accuses you of cheating, it’s definitely a red flag. Psychologically speaking, a person would only suspect irrationally if they themselves want or have done it themselves.

There’s no two ways about it, cheating hurts. But we have to ask ourselves, why do we, as a species that reveres monogamy so much, cheat?

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