Jason Hewlett, a happily married professional entertainer with four kids, was waiting in a checkout line when he saw a gorgeous woman ahead of him.
In that moment of immediate physical attraction, Jason felt an uneasy pain of guilt and worried that he had ’sort of cheated’ on his spouse.
As he says in his Facebook status:
“I was at Target getting a few manly things, you know — eyebrow tweezers, toenail clippers, beard trimmers, mustache molding waxes, some beef jerky, sardines, trail mix, a loofah — and as I went to pay I saw this woman in line that knocked me out. I thought, ’Wow, some lucky guy is with her!’”
Then, half a second later, he recognized that the woman was really his wife who, as fate would have it, was shopping at the same exact store at the same exact time.
Jason considered getting her attention, but rather he stood back and quietly observed her as she paid for her shopping and went off with her day, completely unaware to her awestruck husband who was coming to a great realization that was later to form the foundation of a super amazing Facebook post:
“First off, I was taken aback by how amazingly beautiful she is once again. I believe I see it often, but today, not knowing she was at the store, I saw her with new eyes and just couldn’t believe I get to be her fella.
Second, it amazed me that she didn’t notice me in the slightest. This is both a good and a bad thing. Good in that she doesn’t have a wandering eye. But it was also bad because I realized how close I came to not ever winning her love in the first place, and the herculean efforts I had to make all those years ago to even get her attention just to say yes to one date! For a minute I felt that familiar grief of doom when I first saw her and knew well, that’s impossible. But somehow I nabbed her despite my insecurities, inabilities, and imperfections.
Third, I was ultimately so pleased to see her in complete confidence on this day, as the independent, capable, humble, fun, sweet, kind, awesome person she is. And then she grabbed her things and walked out the door. I never said anything, didn’t flag her down, just watched her walk away, admiringly, knowing she’s my wife and I love everything about this woman.”
All couples can learn an important lesson from Jason’s fate encounter: to remember to look at our husband or wife through the eyes of a stranger in a supermarket line, and tell ourselves specifically why we fell in love with them at the start of everything.